Question about guilt:

KevR

I have heard and read about guilt after transplant surgery. I never experienced it. I was very happy to be alive and very grateful for the organ I received. I know someone lost their precious life and I was saved. And for that I will be ever grateful. The reason I bring this up is I have had discussions where other health related issues have come up n I’ll admit it gets me down. I don’t give up but I do whine sometimes about the other issues. I have received a response where I was told I should be happy and feel fortunate to be alive. But I sometimes think non transplant people don’t understand the multitude of problems we still face and that we still get down because post transplant like is not easy. Just writing to vent.

AliEm14

All emotions are welcome here! I always say both things get to coexist at the same time. You can be upset or complain or struggle with the fact this is your life AND be grateful. People get told to just be grateful as if it’s that easy. Only feeling one way all the time wouldn’t make you a human, it would make you a robot. Being human is having conflicting feelings and ups and downs and being messy sometimes.

I love my life. And I probably wouldn’t put myself through this again. I’m really grateful I got a transplant. And living in my body is really hard some days.

we all need spaces to vent. And we all need the reminder it’s ok to not just be positive and grateful all the time. Acknowledge when it sucks. We’re here for you and your human experience

KevR

thanks @AliEm14 For your understanding words.